Wednesday, November 10, 2010


Ok... for what ever reason, I seem to want to share these passages from Pema Chodron's books, it's what I see but don't know how to express into  words, since she says it so eloquently I am copying her works.   Sometimes it's just once sentence that gives clarity to something we are stuck on , or we find ourselves saying it to a friend or family.   
 So here it is:

Life is glorious, but life is also wretched. It is both. Appreciating the gloriousness inspires us, encourages us, cheers us up, gives us a bigger perspective, energizes us. We feel connected. But if that's all that's happening, we get arrogant and start to look down on others, and there is a sense of making ourselves a big deal and being really serious about it, wanting it to be like that forever. The gloriousness becomes tinged by craving and addiction. On the other hand, wretchedness--life's painful aspect--softens us up considerably. Knowing pain is a very important ingredient of being there for another person. When you are feeling a lot of grief, you can look right into somebody's eyes because you feel you haven't got anything to lose--you're just there. The wretchedness humbles us and softens us, but if we were only wretched, we would all just go down the tubes. We'd be so depressed, discouraged, and hopeless that we wouldn't have enough energy to eat an apple. Gloriousness and wretchedness need each other. One inspires us, the other softens us. They go together."
Pema Chödrön (Start Where You Are: A Guide to Compassionate Living

Alice xox

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